How to be Genuinely Kind When You’re Low-Key Bitchy

“Guard well within yourself that treasure, kindness. Know how to give without hesitation, how to lose without regret, how to acquire without meanness.”
George Sand

Let’s state vague facts. The world is polluted in more ways than one if not all. And as we live longer, we see it as a fact for ourselves. Friends back stabs you, a senior in work bullies you, a random acquaintance low-key two faces you, and dang the not so random ones too. And society… Society categorizes you based on family pedigree. All in broad daylight. Time and time again. And with every single step you make… Sometimes, all these follow you. Making it hard to believe in whatever good thing you believe in. Hermione, Belle, unicorns, Ariel,  Merida, Moana, Santa… All those gradually disappear.

You live. You walk. You breathe.

In time you’d know when you’re with bad company and still be okay with it. In time you’d play the game and play it well more than they can ever play in their lifetime. That’s okay. You somehow won the battle of wits and classic low-key meanness. But for how long?

It won’t matter in the long run, I must say. In the end, you’d find you played the game they’ve taught you so well they can’t get it anymore. It ceased being a banter, it held no fun. In the end, you’ve become the villain in every storybook you’ve read. But this time, you know the backstory of how the villains came to be. Cause in every chapter you breathed to life, in every chapter you’ve made a story not of kind-hearten princesses but of princesses who weren’t saved.

It sounded awful. Sounded every bit of a book’s ending of how a beauty became a beast. But as you breathe every chapter to life, you, and only you can continue it the way you want. You can either live the life you became complementing how the world works or live it with who you really are. Who you truly are.  (sfx: Moanaaaa- you’re so amazeenngg~ )

It’s going to be an eventful ride of sorting things out. But nonetheless,  worthwhile. Since, it is for YOU. Only YOU. Be mindful that the world will NOT change for you just because you are changing. Know that you have to strive anyways. Look at everything pretty and good if not great for YOU. Be it food, place or people. Be with everything that makes you happy and kind. So that when life reminds how some go around gallivanting their ids, you can keep your ground and live for yourself and who you are and who you want to be.

Be low-key bitchy when the need arise. Since, no one is an angel baby girl, be brave and strong fighting people. But only when you’re helping them up. Know the difference of fighting the battles you want to fight. Not because they deserve the effort of you fighting for them and helping them up, ’cause everyone deserved to be fought for no matter the circumstance. But fight when you know you are the fight they needed.

Being genuinely nice to not so genuine people is more than a choice. Being innately doing everything to survive is a man’s instinct. Juggling both is an everyday feat. But when you look at it from their chapter and how they breathed them to life… It’s different.

Being genuine means you open your thoughts and goodness without expecting in return. No monetary gains or anything at all. Not even a drop of malice. Cause just a drop of contaminated water to a glass of water changes things. Just a prick from infected blood at times of weakness, even more. When these instances comes, it mars the intent. But you can always start over. I think I valued life more because of this. The thought of another chance as long as the body breathes and beats, enamored me beyond my negativity. Beyond my self-preservation, energy conservation, eccentricities and hermit-life seeking soul.

Somehow, through the ride, I found I’m okay with my ‘low-key’ meanness and abyssal id.  Somehow, I learned that the best healers are the wounded.


 

The Paradoxical Commandments

People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.
Love them anyway.

If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Do good anyway.

If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies.
Succeed anyway.

The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway.

Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.
Be honest and frank anyway.

The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds.
Think big anyway.

People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs.
Fight for a few underdogs anyway.

What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.
Build anyway.

People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.
Help people anyway.

Give the world the best you have and you’ll get kicked in the teeth.
Give the world the best you have anyway.”
Kent M. Keith, The Silent Revolution: Dynamic Leadership in the Student Council

 

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